Sometime last year while discussing with one of my girlfriends, we talked about how we avoided falling for sexual temptations when we were undergraduates. And she told me what I found both hilarious and practical…
“Dee, I was dating this fine guy that was a real big boy. I was so in love with him. I also had this very old pant that was torn in many places. So whenever I was visiting his house, I’d wear this old and ugly pant to avoid stories that touch. And God used that pant to save me many times. Whenever lust seemed to be taking over, I’d remember that I never want anyone to see that pant especially not him as I’d never get over the embarrassment. That was how I was able to keep myself in that relationship.”
We both had a good laugh and I applauded her teenage sense.
But like Apostle Paul said, “When I was a child, I talked, thought and understood like a child. When I became a man, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11
We live in a world and generation where most people, especially teens and youths, are under pressure to “off-pant”. Often, we hear love equated to sex by a friend or partner who is more interested in satiating the short-term pleasure of sexual urge, and damning the dire consequences.
If you’re still sexually pure, it is in your best interest to keep it so. Not just because you’re avoiding unwanted pregnancy and STDs. But also because there are spiritually transmitted demons you cannot see and their effects though subtle, are more deadly than AIDS.
If you’re experimenting with sex or any form of sexual immorality (pornography, masturbation, sexting, smooching with someone you’re not married to, homosexuality, lesbianism, fornication, adultery, lust, etc.) in order to know what it feels like or to keep a relationship, I beseech you in the name of Christ to FLEE. What you’re doing is tantamount to waving your most valuable certificate over an open flame and expecting it not to catch fire or get scorched in the least.
STOP. PLAYING. WITH. FIRE!
If you’re addicted to or struggling with any form of sexual immorality, I want to assure you that you’re not alone and your case is not a hopeless one. There’s deliverance and victory for you in Christ Jesus.
Perhaps you may say you’ve fasted, prayed, confessed and even attended deliverance sessions but it persists. That could be true. However, the solution is not in religious activities but in the TRUTH. Jesus said, “Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you FREE.” John 8:32
To remain resolute and standing no matter the pressure for romance and sex that you probably face daily, you must put away teenage sense and put on godly wisdom. Don’t put yourself in a compromising situation. And if the situation comes to you, FLEE!
If you value your tomorrow and give even a little thought to your generation unborn, you’d know that sexual sin is not something to be toyed with. Not because it is the worse sin, but because it’s a sin that involves blood and the life of a thing is in its blood… I pray God opens your eyes to understand how deep this is.
Again, I emphasize: FLEE!
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
To flee is to run quickly. You don’t stay there and be speaking in tongues, expecting a supernatural power to help you overcome. No! The only way of escape with regards to this sin is to run.
Let’s look at Joseph’s story more closely:
“So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her. But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment saying, ‘Lie with me.’ But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.” Genesis 39:7-12
Joseph knew that sleeping with his master’s wife was a sin against God; not only against his master. He called it ‘great wickedness’. You must see this sin as great wickedness because you are wrecking a life by indulging in such act. You are destroying your future.
“So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.”
This phrase caught my attention and it is very vital. While most try to avoid sex, they still leave themselves off-guard by STAYING CLOSE.
Joseph did not just avoid sleeping with his master’s wife, he also avoided being with her. Being with her may not be sin but he avoided that before the possibility of its leading to danger became too much to bear.
Finally, Joseph fled even if it cost him his garment. This cannot be over-emphasized.
When it comes to sexual sin, you FLEE, not walk. You must maintain a far distance and run when tempted.
Some of us have to run from some friends that we keep company with because their lifestyles do not provoke right living. Whether or not they call themselves Christians, evil communication always corrupts good manners. Some of us have to stop watching some type of movies and TV programs. Some of us have to stop reading some blogs, books, posts and articles. Whatever you know fuels this temptation, you need to cut it off.
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